Way to deal with people – don’t lose sight of the goal

It’s very important to stay focused. In fact, all the great achievements of the world came through ‘focus’. Focus, by all means, is the foremost requirement to achieve any desired end.

Focus is not like a talent that you possess. You do it. At every moment of your life, you were focused on something. That ‘something’ can be your spouse, friend, your school uniform, a miserable man on street, topper of the class, a job, salary, chronic pain, cigarette, whiskey, bike and even a man crossing the road as you watched. People focus on the wall clock when they wake up. Then they focus on their tie as they leave for office and so on. So you really are capable of focusing your mind on something! Don’t dishearten yourself by saying that you cannot focus or pay attention to studies, work or relationships. You just need to switch the concentration point. Now, you don’t have to warm up your head over safety levels for that. There are other ways, better ones. If your goals are receding away, you must have been focusing somewhere else.

Solution is quite simple – pay attention!

People, who were focused mindfully on a single idea, actually made it a reality. However, this post is not to help you towards your goal of becoming a rich man or getting a nice car. Then, the story will have to be a lot lengthier. However, you can make some significant changes in the world around you. From relationships with your family members to colleagues at office, you can carry an altogether new  and positive ambiance with yourself! You just need to remember the exact goal that you have. Remember that your goal is to get things done and not to mess them up. Remember that your goal is always to make friends and not to create animosity. That’s wise, logical and practical! Stretch your limits and see how will continue moving forward! Anger, altercations, pointless arguments, grudges, animosity and jealousy is only a step backward! Focus on things that you want! Unless you pay attention to the goal yourself.. unless you are dedicated to the desire you have .. how can it come to pass How can it come to pass if ego, worldly consensus and laziness to act makes you forget ONE OBVIOUS GOAL – To be at joy, peace and harmony with everything else.

This is about dealing with other men/women in family, society, business etc.

People find it hard to stay focused. As soon as your younger brother argues about your own wrongdoings, you stop giving him advices and start scolding him. Your point of focus changed as soon as the pointer moved towards you.

‘Ego’ is the biggest cause of ‘change of focus.’ Consider, for example, that you go to talk to your friend to fix some personal issues. When your friend gets angry, starts swearing to you, says things that hurt your ego – know that you had a goal. Be careful. Be calm. Without being calm and placid, you cannot have a good judgment. Do not imbibe all the bad meanings from what your friend said. Instead, say what you intended to say, irrespective of how the other side is responding.

I have seen people getting angry over trivial issues. A discussion becomes a debate as soon as the arguments start pouring in. Then, this debate becomes an altercation. Both the parties had a goal. They ought to focus. They should have focused on what they wanted to talk about. When they focused on proving each other wrong, they were arguing. They weren’t discussing anymore. They made more effort to prove the other party wrong than to prove himself right. Earlier, they were going to find the ‘right’ way ‘mutually’. Their point of focus had changed. As the anger came in, they totally lost it. Now, they have lost their minds!!

However, you know, it takes two hands to clap. If either one of the folks in a conversation is of calm mind, no heated discussions can take place. The calm mind knows how to be truly diplomatic. You don’t have to be a great manipulator to achieve the desired ends through such conversations – be it business or personal relationships.

Just remember one thing –

DO NOT LOSE THE SIGHT OF THE GOAL. Focus on that.

You gotta be cool | calm | grateful if you want to be really smart with people you love or hate ( That doesn’t matter, really )

Be a little wise when you are dealing with an IMPORTANT FOOL