We all feel things! We feel happy, sad, frustrated, angry and hundred other things! Feelings are not just about being happy or sad. There is more to it! Feelings, for which we have names, are limited in number. Number of things that you feel is actually very high! The role of language is to measure these feelings and describe them… So that people could talk, discuss and write about them!
Have you ever wondered about feelings that have no names, no descriptions? When we run after definitions, descriptions and measurements, we are not going any closer to the actual experience of a ‘feeling’.
How about feeling ‘happy’?
Let it be a task that you have to complete! You have to feel happy for a few minutes! You have to feel awesome! You have to smile.
Here is what you can (and will) do
- Think about something beautiful
- Visualize something that you want in future
- Think about a wonderful moment that you had in past
It’s highly likely that you will use thoughts of ‘your dreams are being materialized’ to feel happy. You can also think about past and use the memories to feel happy. What about feeling awesome without those thoughts? Is it possible to feel happy and think nothing of that sort?
How about feeling ‘sad’?
Feeling sad might be a little difficult 
who would like to feel sad; intentionally. Anyways, give it a try… It will only help you to recognize the emotion. Sadness always crawls over without telling you about its arrival and destruction that follows. Let it come with an invitation so that you can understand how treacherous it is!
Things were pretty simple at first.
When I was a kid, I cried several times a day (at least this is what my mom tells me :) ) I am sure you were not born very brave either! We cried over and over again in a single day… But then, within minutes, I, you and all other kids laughed! We completely forgot to continue with our cries and shrieks and pain.
Something happens and we cry! Someone talks in a rude manner and we cry! We don’t get what we want and we cry! Someone talks nicely and we start smiling! Someone takes us up in arms and we laugh! Things were that simple (really)
Why things are NOT simple now?
There is a fundamental gap between what you think-write-speak and feel. You feel something, describe it for your own self and describe it in a really nasty way! You don’t have to deal with feelings… You have to deal with painful thoughts now!
Earlier you felt like crying in some situation and you did! Now you feel like crying and you think about a hundred things that stay in your head for a really long time. That’s how you embrace pain… When the pain was to be released by your cries, you backed out! Not that you averted the painful emotion… You aggravated it by relating several other thoughts to it!
Way out?
Problems began with our practice of relating thoughts to a painful emotion. It’s really important to feel things without any ‘inner chatter’. Not that rest of the ways are wrong of unsatisfactory! Knowing how to feel without words, language and thoughts will keep you at peace…. No matter what the emotion is!
If you are happy… lean back and close your eyes. Feel ‘happy’ instead of having an inner chatter about ‘feeling happy.’ If you are sad… cry if you like. Shout out loud if that pleases you. Drain away the emotions there and then. You can, however, work on your painful emotions and get rid of them. Otherwise one painful emotion will leave you with hundreds of corrupted judgments about your friends, family, career, spouse and life in general!
Impression of that pain will be no more if you let yourself cry or shed some tears without thinking much on it! That is the natural response of human body. Let it be.
Feelings without words are so common and yet so elusive. We all have been feeling that way since we were kids. Try to feel the same way now. Life will take a new coarse for sure!
Think about the painful memories that you have and cry (NOW) until they are gone. Remember to flush the dirt there and then without letting it enter your head and infect everything else you store in there.
Feelings without words are free of any judgment, reason and blame-game. One who is consciously feeling that way, is close to the ‘art of witnessing’ where you don’t even need to cry or smile to feel AWESOME
