That was Orkut’s ‘Today’s fortune’ on my home page yesterday. Most of the horoscopes available on web suck ( big-time actually) but Orkut has been publishing a selection of great quotes. That’s much better. I wondered how true it was – good humor actually makes all things tolerable. I have no quick theories to justify that laughing and smiling makes our own body system grow healthy or pushes forward some kind of micro vibrations that start transforming the universe around us, but presence of humor in daily life can actually bring out a transformation.
Good humor.. uh.. what is that?
Well, that which makes everyone laugh and smile, can be rightly called as ‘good humor’. Ridiculing someone is not ‘good humor’ because the person concerned can not involve himself. He is not going to laugh and smile and feel good at heart if you take a share of ‘good humor’ for yourself and hurt others.
Well, good humor can actually change things. It allows a person to express his feelings in best possible manner. Even when you talk about something hilarious to your client, you are actually progressing the conversation. Whether you are presenting an important idea to a team of senior managers or teaching in class, ‘good humor’ can help you to retain the interest of audience. If humor can wake up sleeping morons in a class, why not use it in other walks of life?.
a) ‘good humor’ will make people feel ‘connected’. Well, there are no visible communication lines to make that happen – you feel yourself attracted to people who make you laugh. Isn’t that true? If so, you can also do the same. That would mean acquiring extra attention for your ideas, convincing a company for partnership or simply establishing a new relationship that you have been longing for.
b) How hard has it been to tell someone to stop doing what you don’t like? Well, people mostly lose balance at such times. Those who suppress their thoughts and keep their grudges to themselves, are actually growing them inside. Garbage continues to mount up until there is an explosion. This explosion is something that nobody likes but invites on his/her own consent. Right from relationship problems to loss of confidence in friendship, partnership, explosions can be of a hundred kind that make a sane person go nuts in a fraction of second! Good humor is a technique of dealing with these tiny grudges right on the time.
c) When we look at things from different angles, there are some points where you find the situations to be hilarious (always) . That’s exactly what you have to find. Find the fun element in things around you and make people smile. Grudges don’t solve problems, smiles do!
A quick recap of benefits that you will receive by nurturing a habit of ‘good humor’ –
- Express what you want + right at the moment you need to + in the best possible manner
- Save yourself from negative thoughts about a person, situation-getting on your nerves and anything else that bothers you! Make fun of everything that comes your way
- Change perception of people on certain issues (agreeably)
Humor can help you …
To say what you want ( expression)..
to get heard ( receive attention)..
to get what you want (persuasion)..
to be at peace (solution to negative impressions in mind) ..
