Be responsible enough to see that you are an active part of the process that leads to happiness, sorrow, profits, losses, frustration, irritations and literally anything else that concerns you!
Responsibility is not forced upon anyone.You are free to choose whether you consider yourself ‘responsible’ for all that you have in your life or not. Well, yeah! You can believe whatever you want to! But its not end of the story as long as its not ‘happy ending.’
Responsibilities like – 1. I am responsible for the kind of career I have. 2. I am responsible for the nature of relationships I have. 3. I am responsible for the behavior of a person towards me. 4. I am responsible for what I have. That includes the kind of environment I have got for studies/work, friends, relationships.
Finally, everything comes down to make choices. What is the use of Free Will otherwise ?
1. Blame others for what what you have got in your life.
The moment we leave it on a person, something unknown, an unexpected situation... we cease to work in the direction of mastering the art of conscious creation. Or say, you will be thinking, acting and believing all that is not in line with your goals.
Whether you think you have pretty good reasons for blaming others or not, it doesn’t matter; really. To blame others, means that you are leaving control. You let someone else choose ‘what would come’ that way. Just that much.
2.Take responsibility of your actions and thus, empower yourself to control you actions.
Empower yourself to try out countless possibilities. Possibilities like 'Happiness under all circumstances' and 'Success becomes a habit'
How could we possibly control our actions if we don’t take responsibility of what you do. If we don’t..that would be like cheating our own selves. A golden rule in this case is ‘It takes to two hands to clap.’ Its pretty straightforward
Why should we possibly assume a personal stance on an altercation, argument, fight, difference of opinion? It takes two people to fight, argue and have something that they don’t agree upon! Each one of the hands used in clapping is an active member of the ‘creation’ of sound
3. Take responsibility of all results that you have got in your life
Empower yourself to create a destiny that is not fixed but the one that is in process of creation. We are an active part of that creation process. Destiny is often a ‘controversial’ word for many. We are making choices here and we would like to keep it open to changes as long as we are not finally happy with it. Taking responsibility of one’s life means freedom from all sorts of resentments, negative vibes and frustrations. There can be some traces of regret and guilt, trying to kill you deep down. However, we open our-self to unlimited possibilities for the future that is still in waiting. Regret and guilt can not affect the intense yearning to change.
Posted by JP on September 19, 2010 at 2:42 am
Good one!!
Taking responsibility and following, both are perfectly antagonistic to each other. As we start taking responsibility of our actions, our positions, and everything we possess or have around us, the poor quality of following others (or blaming or in fact hiding) starts disappearing.
Very well said:
“The moment we leave it on a person, something unknown, an unexpected situation… we cease to work in the direction of mastering the art of conscious creation.”
Conscious creation is something that happens when one takes the responsibility.
Posted by Kamal Thakur on September 19, 2010 at 11:59 am
Yo Yo! thanks for dropping your valuable comments
… to blame others for what we got.. or to hide what we did .. from ourselves.. is a conflict… and I feel its always destructive to what we are genuinely interested in creating
thanks again. stay tuned.
Posted by meeti on September 19, 2010 at 10:08 am
just yesterday i was thinking its been loooong since i received any positivity from your articles
i know surrendering is d ultimatum
but i want to ask when evrythn is dstnd n evrythn is gained aftr surrendering y do v lay so mch stress on karmas
if v surrender thr is nothin let to b performed i mean no karmas to b done
is this not utter confusing trap GOD has webbed for us
Posted by Kamal Thakur on September 19, 2010 at 4:21 pm
i wonder if a situation like ‘no-karmas-to-be-done’ can ever arise. Abstract intelligence that manifests through us and everything else outside or inside, is not stagnant either. However, we can set ourselves to a different situation.. a situation where karmas leave no impressions.
Surrender or submission leads to instant peace of mind and thus, one can hear the music of silence. Silence is not dead as it may appear to some. The end result of surrender is this ‘silence’ that leads to fearlessness, strength of mind, unfalling faith and mountainous will.
Complete surrender is an inner phonemena and an individual will need to reach a certain purity level to be able to do ‘want’ it. That purity level can result from Karmas.
Submission can actually make things quite beautiful .. cos it will make anyone feel free from all sorts of negative impressions like guilt, resentment, sorrow, grudges etc. These impressions are nothing but noise.. noise that keep us from enjoying the music of silence.
a small pondering
– how would it be to negate personal existence completely as an illusion and feel, see, touch and experience only and only abstract intelligence in one’s own being. Ideas of ‘personal existence’ are the ones that are not in agreement with the idea of “All-is-one” 
All other definitions of ‘personal existence’ ll be controversial 
Posted by meeti on September 20, 2010 at 5:28 am
thanx a tonne
u xplain thns so easily n beautifully dat i feel i keep on askin n asking n gain dat knowledge endlessly
if u don,t mind can i keep a continuation of my doubts
i feel as if my inner is answering
if u feel my questions irritate u or are hindering yr any kind of wrk i wld b grateful if u tell me not to send so many agn
n agn n agn
y is it tht sometimes v r so linked tht nothin exists arnd for days together n thn all of it dissappears as if i m lost
lost in dis jungle called earth
evn on screamin /shoutin/pleadin n crying the inner connection does not link for days togthr
GODseems not to listen at all
it seems m being punished for some deed whch i don,t rembr
is it planetary influence/is it inner guilt or is it destiny
Posted by Kamal Thakur on September 20, 2010 at 3:50 pm
Best ways to establish inner connections are not through screaming-shouting-or-pleading. Obsessive compulsive prayers have to go one day.. sooner the better.
God does not seem to listen cos we hv divorced him as a ‘being’ living in far deep in stars, above the clouds…. God is There and He is right here.. you will just need to calm yourself down before you start praying…. that is the sole purpose of doing all the chanting and pranayama and stuff like that before meditating on God or specifically on some higher power.
Do analyze what you are telling yourself.. as you said ” GODseems not to listen at all” .. well how can that be? There is no God or there is God who listens to you all the times in all situations
We all have to deal in present with what we have done in past. You said you don even remember
Well.. to be precise.. in my case.. I tend to forget them at will 
Why should I keep myself occupied by a thought that says I might have done something wrong. Give love to people around you cos this is something better that you can remember 
Planetary influences exist just the way a stone circulated with a string would go in tangential direction. Just that much.
String, circular motion and a projected ‘future pathway’ of stone are nothing but conditions according to which we keep on living..
conditions like.. he loves me.. i may love him….. nd .. he hates me.. i am going to do the same… nd.. he has not been nice to me.. i will do the same..
go unconditional.. as much as you can.. when it comes to love people around you! .. Just people around you for now.. your immediate family members, friends, people u meet at office/college/shops… ‘feel’ love from your inner being…. no matter what they say/do/behave-like…
forget about planets…. Since you are now becoming UN-Conditional, you will be creating your own destiny (consciously)
PS. I am always here to serve guys like you. All that I publish and suggest here at my blog is a result of my personal experiences and there is nothing else I can provide for (as evidence)
God Bless you!
Posted by meeti on September 21, 2010 at 8:59 am
i quite understand dat
it is not a 100prcnt always tht 1percnt failure disturbs more thn tht 99percnt success
y so
y we feel so godly at times n so vulnerable at times
at times i feel i m god n at times it is how a creature lke me can b god
i hve so mch to lrn
its all so cnfsin
Posted by meeti on September 26, 2010 at 1:03 pm
if you read guru talks
today there is an article about a child n a saint
this was exactly wat i had meant to say
one has to cry n plead
love n b pampered
all this is like between god n all of us who r his children
definetely v can c him in any way
wen angry v scold him like v do to our own children
wen depressed v need his shoulder to cry on
wen happy v wanna b pampered by him
it is how v want him in a relationship
do reply
Posted by Kamal Thakur on September 26, 2010 at 1:48 pm
hi meeti.. apologies for replying late.. was a little messed up with few things
I am free to choose a third alternative as well
On occasions I have been like that stranger. Then, at other times, i was like a child who completely submitted himself to the supreme father. Also, I was a ‘nobody’ in some precious moments when I began to feel Him stronger than ever. I was also in communion with my Father when each part of his creation around me, including myself.. made perfect sense… some fortunate moments when I could see only and only Him.
I feel free to be a pampered child or a child who cries buckets now nd then .. or a child who hardly gives up his playful nature and continued-smile because he can feel his father around him all the time.
I feel free to be a stranger who performs rituals that he believes half halfheartedly in..
I feel free to lose myself and see Him all over.. inside -outside
We make decisions.. we always do.
Sandeep has made a nice comparison by demonstrating child-stranger conversation in order to tell how a truthful call from a child-like heart is always heard. By all means, there can be more characters in this conversations
Characters who feel free to do one of things mentioned above or hundred others that you can think of..
PS- i do read gurutalks
in fact God-IS-There is lik sister concern to GutuTalks 
Posted by Guru Talks on September 26, 2010 at 8:10 pm
Thanks Meeti & Kamal, a nice discussion leads to superior understanding ! And we both appreciate Meeti’s comments, they provoke insights.